Perhaps rather than wishing she’d go out with her friends less, you should go out with her more. So, how often are we talking about? Is it a reasonable amount? If so, I think you’re OK. If you told me that your wife was gone every other night, my advice to you would be different. Of course, while other interests are healthy they are not supposed to take priority over the marriage itself. Perhaps more importantly, they are also not clingy, needy, or insecure in ways that can undermine many other couple’s happiness. They are not threatened and do not perceive other interests as competition for their spouse’s affections. So, they don’t mind when their partner pursues other worthwhile activities. They trust their connection and loyalty to one another. The strongest couples I’ve known have invariably had their own interests, hobbies, friends, etc… It could be that couples are strongest who are confident in their relationship. If you’re feeling left out, I’d recommend either dating your wife more often, or doing more with the guys. (You won’t be happy if your wife is gone every night.) Happy couples need time apart and to have their own interests. So, do I take it back and tell her that I support her going out with friends, or do I go the selfish route and let her stop going out with friends? What do you think?Īnswer: I think you’ll both be happier if you let her go out with friends - within reason, of course. When she agreed so easily, I was quite disarmed and now I feel guilty and controlling for even suggesting it. Well, to be honest, I was expecting a little more of a fight. She just said that she loves going out with her life-long friends, but she loves me more and if it bothered me that much, she would simply not go out with them anymore. So, it was bothering me, especially after she spent the night down there, and so I talked to her about it, and she was actually really cool about it. About half of her friend group is single and half is married, so I wonder if she is relieving some of her single lady days or something. As far as I know, there’s nothing bad happening, but I just don’t like it. The original plan was just to go down for the evening and come back, but she called late and they decided to spend the night. Last weekend, she and her friends went down to Las Vegas for the night. I get that she needs to get out and let loose at times. I don’t want to be that controlling, jealous husband, but I do feel insecure about it sometimes. Question: My wife likes to go out on girl nights with her girlfriends from high school and I’m not sure how I feel about it.
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